When your dad tries to guilt trip you into visiting him: “well I guess I’ll just spend the weekend all by myself…”
You say “glad to know we’re on the same page.” Slowly, he will have to adapt to just outright telling you what he thinks instead of playing mind games.
When your friend tries to hint that they’re mad at you without saying anything: “Oh, I’m fine, clearly you don’t need to worry about me,”
You say: “I’m glad you’re doing well. Call me if you want to talk, though!” Soon enough, they will accept that they can’t be passive aggressive with you.
When your boyfriend says: “All your friends are great, I really love *insert male friend* especially.”
You say: “I’m so glad you like my friends! I should invite them back soon.” He needs to understand that if he has a problem with your friends, he needs to just voice his concerns instead of being sarcastic and accusatory.
As someone who has lived through several toxic relationships and has an abusive father, I think one of the most important manipulation tools a toxic person has is excessive subtext and hidden meanings in their conversation. It hides all of the actual fighting from the eyes of onlookers while still hurting you, which is scary and makes you feel like you’re making it all up. Don’t put up with this bs. Make them stop hiding.
say what you want about the legend of korra but bolin losing his mind and turning into a screaming fangirl whenever he meets one of the gaang is absolutely incredible
don’t touch people that don’t want to be touched!!! people might not want to be touched due to abuse, people might not want to be touched due to sensory issues, and some people just don’t like it. i don’t care how weird or ‘sad’ it is that you can’t touch them, just don’t fucking do it. their comfort is more important than you poking them or hugging them.
black people, please take care of yourselves. please take care of your health. please take care of your mind. please take care of your spirit.
i understand if your soul is not at peace. i understand if you are exhausted. just, please take care of yourselves in these dark, hateful times and surround yourself with people who understand why.
Regarding donating to bail funds and other organizations, try to take a quick look at their twitter pages etc. to see if they’ve made public statements about donations! Several organizations have received a huge amount in donations and are now suggesting people donate to other organizations that still need it. For instance, Reclaim the Block released this statement that includes other organizations that haven’t received as much. Black Visions Collective also posted that statement on their twitter account:
Brooklyn Community Bail Fund tweeted this (link to statement, where they provide additional orgs to donate to):
Lots of links are going around so it’s a good idea to just quickly check to see which organizations still need assistance!
